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Online life vs offline life
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I can't even explain how this makes me feel.
When I join the online life, I see everyone suffering from loneliness. When I go offline (outside), I see everyone with their friends, girlfriends, families everywhere having the best time of their lives - pretty much living the successful and happy life.
You guys too?
Top Comment: Thats probably because people with friends and partners have a reason to go outside and enjoy their time. Lonely people tend to stay at home because what else are you supposed to do anyway?
How online dating ruined my life
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I'm in my mid thirties, good job, educated, athletic. Two months ago I decided to try online dating. I met about 12 girls. These are the most painful experiences:
Girl 1. We met once and then we talked for a few days. I really liked her. We met again and she said that she wants to be my girlfriend. Everything was fine for a few days. It seemed that she liked me. Suddenly, one day she stopped talking with. Finally I was able to talk with her and she said that she doesn't want anything anymore without too much explanation. She lied about a few things and most likely she tried to use me to get a permanent visa. She probably found someone else (even if she agreed to date me exclusively).
Girl 2. We texted for a while. We had many things in common. She said that she hopes that I'm The One. When we met, she was late half an hour and she got drunk. Next day she said that she still could not forget her ex.
Girl 3. We had a really nice date. I really liked her. After the date she proposed to meet again. We met again two days later. I got her flowers and everything was great. We talked a lot on the phone in the next few days. She made long term plans. She even talked about having a family. She said that for the first time she has no doubts about the guy she is dating (me). One time I spent the night at her place. Everything changed shortly after that. She stopped being friendly. After two days I was able to talk with her on the phone and she said that she is not ready for a relationship. She gave me some BS excuses. We agreed to date exclusively but I think she found someone else.
Girl 4. We started talking and she seemed a nice girl. She lived 200 miles away from me. We agreed that we should meet and see if we like each other. The plan was for me to drive to her town. I planned everything and I took a day off from work. In the evening she said that she changed her mind and she is not ready to date anymore. I god mad and sent her some nasty messages. She changed her mind again and she tried to convince me to go and see her. I agreed. I drove 400 miles in total to go and see her. It was a waste of time because it was clear that she didn't care at all.
Girl 5. We had a really nice date. She told me that I'm good looking and she wanted to see me again. By the way she looked at me I think she really liked me. Next day she called and she said that her ex texted her and she feels really bad. They broke up just two weeks earlier. When she agreed to see me she was still with that guy. So she was on an online dating site while being with that guy.
I think these experiences ruined my life. I can't believe I had such bad luck to meet these horrible girls. I'm a weak person. I can't get over this. I started to drink and neglected almost everything. I'm really depressed. I stopped going to the gym and dieting and ruined years of hard work. I will always have trust issues and I have absolutely no hope that I can find someone. Now it's clear to me that life is not worth living.
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Jesus fucking Christ.
Get over yourself.
"Now it's clear to me life is not worth living."
Because you had a handful of bad dating experiences? Grow up.
I'm going to give you some harsh reality here. Because you need to sack/ovary up, and leave this whiney bullshit teenage angst crap in the garbage.
You will never be happy if you keep thinking that happiness is derived from the company of another person.
Reading over your tales of woe, it seems to me that you are divorcing yourself of all rational thought in pursuit of 'what ifs' ... you're pursuing the potential of romance connection, versus getting to know the actual person in front of you.
You romanticize it so much, it has blinded you to all those red flags that you should recognize them from the outset. Driving 200 miles to meet an internet random is nuts that quick out of the gate.
You cannot force a relationship. I would bet money that you've managed to write your desperation into your dating profile and these horrible women picked up on it.. and they told you what they knew you wanted to hear: "Let's be exclusive" or "I really hope you're the One" etc.
So drop all that dating bullshit until you're happy being perfectly alone. Happy in your own skin.
Then when you feel confident, and happy, and the idea of rejection isn't going to send you into a depressive spiral...
Join a couple of clubs in your town that mirror your interests. Like to scuba dive and play dungeons and dragons? (I do - so I'm using that as an example) join a dive club, or a gaming group. MST3k fan club? (Also me) join it. You will meet a myriad of people male & female who share your interests.
But this 'life is not worth living' stuff stops right fucking now.
Does anyone have any stores (online and real life) perfect for...
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Why does life exist?
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If death is the ceasing of a body and it's cells functions causing it to no longer be considered functioning "alive",
Is the main purpose of life not to prevent death?
What even created a living creature? What criteria must be met before something is considered alive rather than being simple objects?
Is there a formula for life?
Even then, what happens when we die? Staying true to it's meaning, death is the ceasing of the essential bodily functions keeping you in a state of "alive".
Then if this includes your brain's death, what comes next? Nothing? No black. No white. What is like for there to be nothing?
The literal absence of anything and everything? If life leads up to death and this truely is the resolution of all life, What is the true cause of life in the first place?
Why does life exist?
Firstly: I would really love to see if I made any of you interested in my question as I myself have been pondering it for the past few weeks.
Secondly: Please correct any mistakes I may have made while writing this (I would guess a few).
Top Comment: The main purpose of life is not to prevent death. It is to keep replicating. It is unclear exactly how life first arose. It is also hard to define what exactly life is. But generally life is something that can replicate. One becomes two. Nucleic acids (think DNA and RNA) form two strands that are mirror images of each other. When they are split apart, they still retain the information to make a new second strand on each. The origin of life was probably when some nucleic acids capable of self copying arose. The ones better at self copying became more common that those that could not. Those that could form a bubble/membrane around themself and for a cell became even more populous. This is the arms race of life. Natural selection. Some forms of life became very complex and even developed brains. But most life didn't. This isn't because they are really successful this way. But not dying until you have reproduced at least once is essential, but living forever is a dangerous strategy. Replication of your DNA (or RNA for some viruses) is the only sure way to survive and become populous. What what the nothingness of death is like is something that I think philosophers have wondered for a while without much success.